Survive and Thrive after Trauma – a leap of faith
I hope to be asked many questions around ‘Survive and Thrive after Trauma’.
- Was it cathartic?
- What possessed me to write so frankly?
- How do I feel now it is published?
I asked friends to chuck difficult questions at me so I may be half prepared to give a decent answer. But all answers must come from the heart: my reaction on the day to a question asked, not a glib and practised answer. We react differently on different days to challenges and this book is about difficult emotional challenges. Here are today’s answers for my lessons learned, so far. 🙂
During my first edit I realised my main message was to encourage those hanging on to their trauma to just let it go and move on. Excellent advice if I may say so! Then why was I procrastinating over a date for my wedding. Actually I had vowed never to entertain marriage again. No thank you. I will keep myself safe, not open to potential hurt. Fear. I was frightened to consider releasing myself to the minefield that is marriage (and I do know it is not one of life’s requirements to marry). In my case I was keeping myself safe, blocked, secure, exactly what I was suggesting to readers they should consider stepping beyond. So I am marrying. I feel happier and excited; not safe, secure and allowing fear to dominate. Fear ruins many a good plan or pleasure.
Why so frank?
My story I think I can appreciate, is quite strong. I wrote it as it was and that is that. And I wrote it to perhaps gain trust in a reader who has experienced harsh deliveries from life. I could worry about not being able to brush some facts under the carpet, many do so why not me? The answer is my story gives me credibility when I say I can help people move beyond their fear, stress or anxiety. I am not unique. I have only written about aspects of a very difficult time in my life: how I hope I have dealt with the more negative, difficult to shift beliefs around anger and a possible lack of forgiveness. My interviewees and I share resources and lessons learned. The stuff we offer which worked and therefore may help others.
Now it’s published…. I feel quite amazed and disbelieving that I have published a book. Please read a review published by Dawn Gracie in the Chichester Observer We Brits have to stop hiding our bright light! I am pleased and know I have written something which has helped me ( I’m surprised at that but there are none so blind as those who will not see) and has the potential to help many others take the baby steps to a more confident and brighter future.